Comments on: Love Lie #6: Marry For Love http://www.thebiblesherpa.com/2009/02/love-lie-6-marry-for-love/ Life is a journey; the Bible is your guidebook. Sun, 05 Sep 2010 22:43:11 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: Kris http://www.thebiblesherpa.com/2009/02/love-lie-6-marry-for-love/comment-page-1/#comment-36 Kris Fri, 20 Mar 2009 12:27:17 +0000 http://www.thebiblesherpa.com/?p=97#comment-36 Hey Shaz - Thanks so much for the insight! As someone who has grown up in the West, I would not presume to understand much about Indian culture. It's always better to hear from someone who really knows it. I did do some research online to get some understanding from folks in India. I was impressed by the fact that many young people like the idea of arranged marriage - the careful choice of their parents upon which they still had a say. More importantly, I saw that love was still a part of the equation for them. They talked about love as something that they worked towards once they were in a marriage. I like that. That is Biblical wisdom that works no matter what religion or culture you are brought up in. I'm not saying your religion doesn't matter. I believe in Christ with all my heart, that He is the way, the truth and the life. I would love to share my wonderful hope in Christ with every arranged married couple in India :). However, here in a country where most would call themselves Christian, we have a pitifully high divorce rate. But can we blame the high divorce rate on our faith? Christian or not, we reap what we sew. If we live by worldly wisdom and mixed up romantic notions, we will get the same result that anyone else will. On the other hand, the Biblical wisdom of loving your spouse because you are married will work for couples no matter where in the world they live or what they believe. I like what you said about freedom. I agree that it is connected with our divorce rate. Freedom has its blessings and its drawbacks. "<em>He who the Son sets free is free indeed</em>." I am free in Christ, but I must keep that in check. "<em>The love of Christ constrains me.</em>" God's love for me holds me back from all kinds of stupid things I might choose to do with my freedom. Thanks again for the input! I love to get insight from different backgrounds and different opinions. - Kris ( 8-D= Hey Shaz - Thanks so much for the insight! As someone who has grown up in the West, I would not presume to understand much about Indian culture. It’s always better to hear from someone who really knows it. I did do some research online to get some understanding from folks in India. I was impressed by the fact that many young people like the idea of arranged marriage - the careful choice of their parents upon which they still had a say. More importantly, I saw that love was still a part of the equation for them. They talked about love as something that they worked towards once they were in a marriage. I like that. That is Biblical wisdom that works no matter what religion or culture you are brought up in.

I’m not saying your religion doesn’t matter. I believe in Christ with all my heart, that He is the way, the truth and the life. I would love to share my wonderful hope in Christ with every arranged married couple in India :). However, here in a country where most would call themselves Christian, we have a pitifully high divorce rate. But can we blame the high divorce rate on our faith? Christian or not, we reap what we sew. If we live by worldly wisdom and mixed up romantic notions, we will get the same result that anyone else will. On the other hand, the Biblical wisdom of loving your spouse because you are married will work for couples no matter where in the world they live or what they believe.

I like what you said about freedom. I agree that it is connected with our divorce rate. Freedom has its blessings and its drawbacks. “He who the Son sets free is free indeed.” I am free in Christ, but I must keep that in check. “The love of Christ constrains me.” God’s love for me holds me back from all kinds of stupid things I might choose to do with my freedom.

Thanks again for the input! I love to get insight from different backgrounds and different opinions.
- Kris ( 8-D=

]]> By: Shaz http://www.thebiblesherpa.com/2009/02/love-lie-6-marry-for-love/comment-page-1/#comment-35 Shaz Fri, 20 Mar 2009 06:04:43 +0000 http://www.thebiblesherpa.com/?p=97#comment-35 I would just like to point-out following: You mentioned that India has the lowest divorce rate (1.1%). That is true, but being from Indian-like background, i know, that reason for such a low divorce rate is nothing to do with marriage being arranged or love; But because of cultural restrictions and norms. If you can somehow make india a place where getting divorced is socially acceptable and people actually have freedom to chose to get un-married, you’ll see divorce rates jump up to the levels you see in western countries. So the high divorce rate in western countries reflects the freedom we have in those countries in my opinion. I would just like to point-out following:
You mentioned that India has the lowest divorce rate (1.1%). That is true, but being from Indian-like background, i know, that reason for such a low divorce rate is nothing to do with marriage being arranged or love; But because of cultural restrictions and norms. If you can somehow make india a place where getting divorced is socially acceptable and people actually have freedom to chose to get un-married, you’ll see divorce rates jump up to the levels you see in western countries.

So the high divorce rate in western countries reflects the freedom we have in those countries in my opinion.

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