The Top Seven Love Lies of the World
Debunking the myths about love & marriage. Searching for the reality of true love
Love Lie #6: Get Married Because You’re In Love
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Welcome back to the Bible Sherpa. Valentine’s Day is getting closer and we are at love lie number six in the big countdown. Today’s lie may surprise you. Keep in mind that the most effective lies are not 100% lie – they are truth mixed with lie. Let’s see what today’s lie has in store for us.
THE IDEA: One should marry the person they are in love with.
THE SOURCE: About a million books and movies, from Aladdin to Shrek (and just about every other movie that involves a princess), extols the importance of marrying the one you love. Apparently the arranged marriage thing is the bane of the princess’ lifestyle.
THE VERDICT: This is not so much a lie as it is twisted truth. It is true that love and marriage should be inextricably connected. However, the world has set that connection in reverse. The idea of marrying for love is just fine up through your wedding day. But that only gives you instructions for one day. What should you do after that?
THE BIBLE: “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her.” – Ephesians 5:25
“Then they (the older women) can train the younger women to love their husbands and children.” – Titus 2:4
THE TRUTH: The world says marry because you are in love. The Bible says love because you are in marriage. The world has it backwards. According to the world, you get married because you’re in love. By that way of thinking, love is a condition and marriage is a choice. While that may work just fine on the wedding day, what really matters happens after the wedding – and every day for the rest of your life. God says give love because you’re in marriage. Marriage is the condition; love is the choice.
THE REAL LIE: The real lie in this idea is hidden. It is tucked away in the unspoken next step: what happens when a couple is married, but no longer in love? They get un-married of course. Bad idea. Go back to the Word of God and you’ll find His design.
THE DETAILS: As you can see, this idea is closely tied with love lie #7 (falling in and out of love). If you haven’t read that one yet, you might want to go back and read that first. If you have read it, let’s dig into this one a little deeper…
